Some of us spend a surprising amount of our lives trying to become easier to understand. We adjust how we speak. We soften our opinions. We hide the things that make us unusual. We learn which parts of ourselves are acceptable in a particular room—and which parts should probably stay outside it. And sometimes, without even realising it, we start confusing belonging with becoming someone else. That is the territory Kris Ferraro enters in Your Difference Is Your Strength.