What if Your Worth Was Decided by Your Gender?
In Dr. Aruna Kalra’s gripping autobiography, I Want a Boy, this unsettling question isn’t just a hypothetical scenario—it’s a heartbreaking reality. Dr. Kalra, a seasoned gynaecologist, reveals the painful truths she’s witnessed firsthand: women driven to extreme lengths by societal and familial pressures, all in the name of bearing a son. The book isn’t just about gender bias; it’s about the lengths to which people will go to meet those expectations, regardless of the personal cost.
I Want a Boy takes you through the emotional journeys of countless women who, despite their modern lives, are shackled by a deep-rooted obsession with producing a male heir. Through Dr. Kalra’s eyes, we see how these women endure not only physical pain but also emotional turmoil, all for the sake of fulfilling a societal demand that values boys over girls. The stories she shares, while anonymized, are powerful and poignant, giving voice to a struggle that many know exists but rarely discuss.
Dr. Aruna Kalra isn’t just an author—she’s a front-line witness to the gender biases that continue to plague society. With decades of experience as a gynaecologist, Dr. Kalra brings a unique perspective to the table, blending her medical expertise with her deep empathy for her patients. Her previous works might not be as well-known, but her impact through her profession and this book is undeniable.
What truly sets I Want a Boy apart is Dr. Kalra’s straightforward yet evocative writing style. She doesn’t just tell these women’s stories; she brings them to life with raw honesty and vivid storytelling. The episodic format of the book allows you to digest each story fully, making every chapter feel like a fresh and compelling exploration of the same harrowing issue.
The women in this book are more than just characters; they are representations of a universal struggle against gender bias. Their stories are relatable because they touch on emotions we’ve all felt—desperation, hope, fear, and the desire for acceptance. The theme of societal pressure is something many can connect with, even if the specifics of the struggle differ.
One of the most heart-wrenching moments in the book is when a woman, after multiple failed attempts to have a son, finally gives birth to a daughter. Her initial reaction of disappointment, followed by guilt and then love, is portrayed with such depth that it’s impossible not to feel her emotional rollercoaster. This moment, among others, highlights the intense emotional toll that these societal expectations can take.
The book’s greatest strength lies in its ability to evoke empathy and reflection. Dr. Kalra’s candid portrayal of these women’s lives makes the book both informative and emotionally impactful. However, some readers might find the repetitive nature of the stories overwhelming, though this repetition also underscores the pervasiveness of the issue.
For me, I Want a Boy is more than just a book—it’s a call to action. Dr. Kalra’s bravery in sharing these stories and her commitment to shedding light on such a critical issue are truly inspiring. One quote that sticks with me is when Dr. Kalra writes, “A mother’s love is unconditional, but society conditions that love with expectations.” It’s a powerful reminder of the biases that still pervade our world.
Have you read I Want a Boy? What are your thoughts on gender bias in today’s society? Share your opinions or favorite parts in the comments—I’d love to hear your perspective!
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